High angle shot: we see the main character,
dressed in boots, a pale orange sweater
and a brown cowboy hat, emerging slowly
from a theater with a throng of others.
She looks small, vulnerable. Close up: reveals
she’s been crying, no, is still crying, but perhaps
trying not to cry. Medium shot. A beautiful young woman,
late teens, in a gray t-shirt, long brown hair floating loose
around her shoulders, comforts the main character.
Asks her if she would like to go for a walk instead
of getting back in line to see another film.
The main character shakes her head, then nods,
laughs, even as the tears continue to fall. Insists
that even though she cries so much, the movie
that would be made about her is a comedy.
The young woman rolls her eyes, nods,
takes the woman in the hat by the hand, walks her
away from the crowd. Long shot reveals they are
in high mountains, the aspen not yet changing,
but there’s a golden hue to their green. Above the aspen,
the spruce are thick, and above tree line, the sheer cliffs
tower, red and gray, shadowed, then spangled with the kind
of light you see in movies but can’t imagine
in your own life. But it is her own life. And she walks
with the smiling but serious young woman who is her daughter
through the unbearably beautiful set. The camera shot
changes to her point of view, focusing on the small brown bird
that sits on a railing beside her, then on the green leaves fluttering
above them, then on her own hand twined with her daughter’s,
the touch light and familiar. There are no lines for this scene
in which she wonders how she ever got lucky enough to nab
this leading role and the supporting role in this other story.
After the preparation, the letting go.
So much is about to change.
She’s determined to give it her everything.
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saying hello to the woman
in line for the same movie—
the chance to become more
than an extra in each other’s lives
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I want eyes that see what is here
and I want eyes that dream,
eyes that follow the feather
that falls between me and my girl
as we sit side by side
and eyes that see her both now
and at every age she’s been,
I want eyes that open to beauty
even as they cry, eyes that
see the same world in new ways,
eyes that, no matter where they land,
ask me to wonder, Is it possible,
this, too, is holy?
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on this night when I long for things
to be different, on this night when
all does not feel well,
let me pray not for things to be different
but to trust all I need is here
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My arms were bent on a static platform
and my feet were strapped into a moveable carriage
and there were springs somewhere to make
the whole operation more difficult. As if.
And when the teacher suggested we lift our hips
into the air, well, there was simply no way this would happen.
Sometimes it’s like that for the heart, too,
when we are told we are supposed to love everyone,
then I think of a certain person, and I think,
nope, absolutely not, that is not happening.
But once I started to find my balance on the reformer,
truth is I did tuck one foot behind the other
and started to pike and flatten, pike and flatten,
the carriage slowly gliding forward and back,
and I thought, huh, well, how about that.
I was sweating too much, I think, for the heart
to pay attention, but my abs are intent on getting
the message across. Sure, it might hurt. Sure,
it’s not easy. But sometimes impossible is just
another way to say not possible yet.
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In the garden works a woman,
in the woman grows a fear,
in the fear lives a truth,
in the truth is an ache.
After some time
of pulling weeds and
deadheading flowers
and before the rain begins,
the ache has sloughed
enough layers to make
it more easily seen.
On its own, the ache
is not so large. When
the woman meets it
between the sunflowers
and snapdragons,
the ache does not disappear,
but somehow it no longer
consumes her, it simply
is as she tugs
at taproots, removes
yellowed leaves.
The world is so much
more alive than the fear
would have her believe.
As day goes down, she
tends the soil, she speaks
to potatoes, to basil,
to kale. There is no seed
for peace, yet it grows here,
the peace of green leaves
and dark earth, the peace of
nightcrawlers, moss and bees.
She speaks to the plants
as she moves through the
rows, and knows ease.
*Inspired by Wendell Berry, “The Peace of Wild Things”
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after Gayle Brandeis
The poem you’re going to write tomorrow
is somewhere in your cells, is made
from language you’ve been learning
and forgetting since your birth.
The poem you’re going to write tomorrow
will ask you to go beyond who you are today,
will invite you to leap over the edge of the known
and may or may not offer wings or a parachute,
may in fact stuff stones in your pockets.
It promises no net.
The poem you are going to write tomorrow
will certainly be more wise than you are,
drawing as it does on infinite potential,
something you can only touch for a moment
before the words on the page become solid
and stuck in their serifs, trapped in their
clever cages of metaphor. But the poem is there,
it’s always there, that poem you will write tomorrow,
with a promise that if you show up, it will come to wrestle,
will let you glimpse its latent thrill, that thrill
you’ve tasted before that keeps you coming
back tomorrow and tomorrow and tomorrow.
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On this gray morning, sitting on the porch,
my whole self tunes and re-tunes to a single
swallow stitching figure eights above
the field, attunes to garden marigolds
all radiant and red, and wetland rushes
wicking gold, the river currents thick
and brown from mudslides after last night’s rain,
the sour scent of autumn in the air—
and for a time, I’m charged with raw contentment,
visceral and deep. How is it true
that if I could, I wouldn’t change a thing—
this moment forged by ache and grace, this hour
that knows no striving, this wet-winged astonishment,
this quiet koan: nothing’s missing.
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You would think only my ears went for a walk,
because all I could focus on this morning was
the constant putter and drone and rumble and whine
of the steady stream of cars on the highway below.
My ears were bothered. Mightily so. Bothered
enough they drowned out the woodsy scent
of spruce and the dry earth perfume of late summer
so I could focus on a backfiring engine.
Bothered enough I had to force myself to notice
how soft the trail was underfoot, how easy it felt
to stroll on the flat surface. Had to force myself
to see how some leaves in the understory were
already turning red, how beautiful they were,
how good the warm sun felt on the bare skin
of my arms, how a crisp breeze made
my arms rise as if in praise to receive a brief
and welcome chill. Surrounded by so much
beauty, it’s a wonder I could be fussy at all,
but wow, was I fussy as those cars roared by
and I dreamed of a different, better trail where
I wanted to be right then, some other trail where
I heard only birds or wind or blessed nothing.
Hours later, sitting on the couch, it’s obvious
what I heard loudest was not traffic, but my own
fussy thoughts as I longed the world to be different
than it was. By some grace, a sweet self-compassion
floods me, quiets me, stills and softens me,
helps me befriend myself just as I am, a human
who is sometimes fussy, sometimes compassionate.
For a grounded moment, I am so content I think
a whole highway could thunder right through me,
and I might just be okay.
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The way a robin or oriole
might weave string or yarn
into its nest to create integrity
or an anchor, that is the way
I weave an imaginary red ribbon
through each square
on the zoom screen.
My friend has just invoked
a Japanese legend
about how we are all connected
by a red thread, and though
I have not heard this legend before,
I can imagine a deep crimson stitching
moving even now through all
of our backgrounds,
making of this gathering
a most wondrous nest,
a sturdy place made of wet poems
and fresh music, song and mess,
a durable creation in which we might
all rest, a sturdy, safe place
to find spaciousness.
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Here, there is highway heading east and west.
A great basin we have named The Great Basin
is rung by mountains and filled with low brush
and not much that man has touched except
this small roadside stand that describes how once
the Pony Express riders would use this rugged route,
changing horses every ten to fifteen miles.
In the car, my daughter sleeps while my husband
and I stand in a merciless wind, reading how
it took only two days after the first transcontinental
telegraph was sent for the Pony Express to shut down.
How much of what we rely on now will become obsolete
in a heartbeat? The postage stamp? The satellite?
When I return to the car, I squeeze the solid hand
of my husband, trace the soft skin of my daughter’s arm,
grateful for gestures no technology can supplant.
Later, we tell inside jokes. Later, we ooh and ahh
as lightning bisects the Great Basin. Nothing can
replace this, I think, as my daughter tangles her hand
mindlessly in my hair and I lean in toward her touch.
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I wish she would. I wish she’d breeze in
with her big white smile and her big blonde hair
and her sing song voice saying, “Hi, y’all.”
I wish she’d come over and sit at the counter
so I could serve her a tall glass of iced tea
or a cool lemonade. Serve her stories of times
when her songs met me in dark hours
or lonely hallways, times when I sang
“Coat of Many Colors,” but heard her voice
instead of mine. Times when I sang about
how wildflowers don’t care where they grow,
somehow feeling so seen by her as a wildflower.
I would serve her stories of the children
I used to work with who lived in a small, dirty house
far from town with an angry dad and an earnest
mom, and how they got books in the mail every month
from Dolly’s book club, how those kids and I would sit
on the old plaid couch and read aloud for hours.
I would want to serve her huge platters of gratefulness
for showing a nation what generosity looks like,
for being a role model for kindness. But I bet Dolly
wouldn’t want a huge platter. My guess is she’d want
a few honest words, so I would say, Thank you,
and she would probably smile and do that shrug
she does. Then we’d walk out to the porch
and sit in the shade and watch as the grass in the field
tells stories about the shape of the wind.
It was never going to happen, this meeting,
but now that Dolly’s gone, I walk outside
with a burgeoning bouquet of many-petalled thank yous
and toss them into the air. I imagine the wind
taking them to her, a colorful, fanciful folly.
I imagine a world where we’re all as generous,
as loving, as impossible yet possible as Dolly.
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too tired to wake
too excited to stay in bed—
one bright slant of light
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It was cold, the water, and clear, so clear,
and we swam through the center of a secret cove
in the calm, blue water, my daughter and I,
surrounded by pine trees and smooth white rocks.
The morning was new and the lake water still,
and no matter how far we swam, we saw
to the sandy, white bottom. In a world of chaos,
currents and swirl, I longed for my heart to be that clear.
For a moment, it was. For a moment, I understood
the magnitude of the gift of clear blue water
and smooth white rocks, a strong able body
and a secret cove. I may not know what holy means,
but I know I want to give back to this world that gave me
a gray and glorious morning swimming with my girl.
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not one thing growing
in the vast salt flats
but beside me my daughter sings
and I know, right here, heaven
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driving straight toward the lightning—
did you think I’d forgotten about you?
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One summer’s evening, when a woman was sitting
with friends at a table in a fine establishment,
her daughter announced it was the one hundredth
anniversary of Winnie-the-Pooh. “Well, Hallo,”
said the woman, as she remembered how oftenishly
she and her son would play a game in which
they would guess at what character a person would be
if they lived in the Hundred Acre Wood, so,
scratching her ear in shy sort of way,
she suggested they play such a game.
One woman at the table, being a good adventurer
and liking to stay at the edge of the action,
knew at once she would be Christopher Robin.
Another was mostly Tigger with a dusting of Eeyore
and a share of Piglet-ish nervousness. And the woman,
who had long known she was part Tigger and part Rabbit,
seeing as how she was both exuberant and rather fond
of control, was not keen to discover that perhaps
she was also a bit of Owl, somewhat of a know it all
who is most likely wrong, especially, as it turns out,
about which character her daughter might pick
for herself, which made it Awkward when the woman’s
inner Rabbit took notes and scoffed, and her inner Owl
went on believing it knew best. But her inner
Friendly Tigger soon felt Bouncy and Boffish again,
just enjoying the night. “Perhaps we all have a bit
of all the characters in us,” one woman suggested.
Such a Pooh thing to say. And the evening went on quite right.
Posted in Uncategorized | Tagged community, control, exuberance, identity, Winnie-the-Pooh | 15 Comments »
for Mom and Dad on their anniversary
Mostly I remember them holding hands.
Not swinging over rivers filled with crocodiles.
Not passionately kissing on the edge of a canyon.
Not jumping from planes, though they did scuba dive.
I remember them peeling and chopping
thirty pounds of carrots they bought bulk
so they can freeze them. I remember them
cleaning the boat. I remember them stopping
for rummage sale signs on Saturdays and sitting
in the back row of the church on Sundays
and sitting on the couch holding hands
on most days. And even so Dad isn’t here
today on their anniversary, he is here.
I remember how they shaped each other with their love
in an everyday way, year after year after year,
then offered that love to me, to the world.
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There is the moment when the woman
is deciding what to make for dinner—
a tofu curry with beet greens from the garden?
Or maybe guacamole with all those avocados
she bought on sale. When she reaches
for the greens, that’s the kind of moment
when a Greek goddess doesn’t appear beside her
and shake her head as if everything depends
on the woman choosing the guac.
Something wonderful about a choice
with so little consequence. Red socks or blue?
The low green vase or the clear vase from Finland?
The woman has read about the butterfly effect,
trusts a life—in fact all of civilization—is built
on every smallest choice and inaction.
But tonight there is peace in the way she presses
water from the tofu, then slides the white cubes
into the pan. Six seven, as the kids would say.
The scent of turmeric fills the room.
If a goddess were to show up, she’d probably
just ask for a glass of sauv blanc and join
the woman for a bowl of curry. They would
sit at the kitchen table for hours, laughing
as the cats chase each other across the room,
talking about the three-hour movie they just saw.
Tomorrow, the choice. But tonight,
the goddess nods at the sunflowers on the table.
“I like your low green vase,” she says.
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