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We show up, burn brightly, live passionately and hold nothing back and when the moment is over, when our work is done, we step back and let go.
—Rolf Gates


This moment, too, is surrender, this blazing,
this bliss-ache, this bright-chime of being,
this showing up heartbare with no shred held back,
this feral unselving, this radiant loss
of all knowing, this wild unhiding
where anything can happen next,
this, too, is surrender. Not like the soulquaking
gut-fall of grief, only just like it, no foothold
except on the needle-tip point of what is,
that place where there is no story, no self,
no yes, no no, no safety, no promises, and
all is being, yes, this, too, is surrender,
this opening beyond self, this radiant obliteration,
unfathomed unfurling, trust-flaring, now-flaming,
instructionless grace, this ecstatic exploding
that always and never arrives.

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Oh friends … Rumi said, “Be a fool,” and also suggested “be helpless, dumbfounded, unable to say yes or no … crazed, lying in a zero circle, mute …” … 

And so … happy April Fool’s. Perhaps not the fool where you try to trick people, more the fool where you are “surrendered to beauty.”


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Design


 
 
Imagine the self as a canyon in the making,
   once solid, and then, ongoingly,
     made more spacious, shaped by water,
 
by wind, by forces beyond its control.
   Whatever is sacred, I feel it in canyons,
     these earthen temples to surrender—
 
such holy architecture
   with their deep and ancient silence,
     with their steep and crumbling walls.
 
How sacred the angle of light
   as it enters from the rim and slants
     through the belly of air.
 
Sacred, too, the shadows,
   like those most secret parts of ourselves
     that never see light.
 
When I think of the self as a canyon,
   it is easier to believe I, too,
     can be made more spacious
 
through surrender, the shape of my life
   an ever-changing record of where I resist
     and where I release,
 
oh this practice I am still learning
   to trust, this erosion of self
     into reverence.

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In Second Grade


 
 
I wanted that plastic recorder.
Wanted it so much that when mom
suggested I could earn that two dollars
by defrosting the freezer, I sat
on the black-and-white tiled kitchen floor
with a blow drier on high. For hours.
Sat there watching each drip.
Sat there longer, perhaps,
than the cumulative time I played
my recorder, but I tell you,
I cherished that brown plastic tube.
Every “Hot Cross Buns” I played
was an anthem to self-determination.
Almost fifty years later I don’t remember
what I read yesterday, but I remember
one a penny, two a penny.
I remember the drip, drip, drip of the frost.
I remember my mom saying,
No, not yet. Keep going.
I remember my lips on the mouthpiece,
the flesh of my fingertips
pressed on the holes,
the shrill music filling the kitchen.

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On Peace


 
All of humanity’s difficulties stem from man’s inability to sit quietly in a room alone.
                  —Blaise Pascal, Pensées (first published in 1670)
 
 
Let me learn this quiet art
of being still in a room alone.
There is so much I cannot do
to help the world,
but this—
let me learn to metabolize
silence as the alga in lichen
metabolizes light. Let me learn
to root and grow
in the sparest of places
as the fungus of lichen attaches
to the barest of rocks.
Let me learn to let the vastly different
kingdoms of myself serve each other
instead of warring,
the way alga and fungus
live together in lichen,
a symbiosis so stable we see
the two as one. This is how
I come to believe it is possible.
I have been sitting with lichen.
The quietest of sermons.
I cannot stop listening.

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for Deb
 
 
I held the tall and solid
song of her in my arms,
held her the way
a note clings to a staff,
as if for a moment,
I could anchor myself
to the years of shared
laughter. I miss you,
I said. And she said,
That is how it is.
What a gift, these five words.
They did not try to fix,
nor did they ignore
the ache of missing.
As if she were helping me
rekey my thoughts into bitonality—
a melody written in love
with a harmony written
in ache. For a while longer
then, I held her because
I could. And moments
later I rehearsed again
how to let her go.
No part of it
was not beautiful.

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One Persistence


 
 
these dreams of peace
fistfuls of tiny seeds
I toss every day to the wind

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The Minimum




Even when worry wrecks us,
leaving us broken on the shores
of the life we had,
even when we have been wrung
like rags, even when we
are brittle, snappish things,
even then the scent of spring
can reach us with its notes
of damp soil, sharp pine,
and sun-warmed grass,
the air clean and slightly sweet.
We don’t need to open
our eyes. Don’t need to try.
All that is asked of us: breathe.

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What is it like to meet a blank page? Anything at all can happen. It’s part of why I love writing poems. Ars poetica is a Latin term referring to poems written about writing poems (I know, pretty meta), and in this particular expression of ars poetica, I explore what it’s like to meet uncertainty when you first sit down to create and the page is still blank. The poem was featured in Uncertain, a limited-run podcast for Scientific American, made by my beloved friend, science writer Christie Aschwanden. Then, the amazing Anaissa Ruiz ( @shethescientist  ) transformed it into this creative video … so sweet all the dimensions of creative wonderment that led up to these 51 seconds! You can hear what went into the making of Christie’s amazing podcast here on episode 109 of Emerging Form. As she says, “The magic really happens when you are open to things,” she says, and openness is only possible when we engage in, you guessed it, uncertainty.

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Walking in the field
or touching your cheek,
eating a thin slice of pear
or listening to you breathe,
I understand now
how everything, everything
is stitched through by grief
and somehow that makes
the weave of this quiet moment
beside you even more
unbearably beautiful.

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And It Is

 
When you were small
I watched you dance
on the sidewalk, your arms
raised high as if inviting
the world to meet you,
rain and sun and all.
I watched you dance
in the living room draped
in hand-me-down dresses
and colorful scarves,
watched you dance
in small windowless rooms.  
Now you dance on the big stage,
floating in on pointe shoes,
your hair in a perfect bun
you pin up by yourself.
I wonder if every other mother
sitting in the dark also forgets
every second of her life save this one,
this second when you raise
your arm with such grace,
this second when your effortless smile
sweeps across the crowd,
this second when you are so shiningly
yourself, a radiant being dancing
for the love of it, as if this is
the only moment that matters.

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One Clearing


 
 
every day I dismantle its nest,
that fear that wings darkly
into my thoughts

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Return


 
 
There was a time I wondered
if I would ever want
to open my eyes again—
today, I can’t stop falling in love
with the glossy black back
of the blackbird, the bright
crimson hues on its wing,
the light song that tumbles
like praise from its beak
as if to say, we are made
to return, we are made to sing.

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One Evening

listening to cello
the smile of wanting
nothing but this

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I felt so lucky to converse with author and spiritual leader Brian Draper of the UK as part of his series on Lent, and our hour-long interview has just been released. You can watch on youtube or you can listen to the audio here. We talk about showing up to a day creatively, the practice of saying yes to the world as it is, showing up wholeheartedly in a time of grief, how to turn toward what hurts and stay open, and much more. 

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Framing



In the photo on my phone, my son stands beside
a key deer, one hand limp at his side, the other
extending toward the spindly creature,
his delighted gaze on me where I stand behind
the camera. I don’t remember why he’s wearing
a shoelace tied around his head, but
his hair is bunched up and the look on his face says
he is both frightened by the deer and longing
to be closer to it. Oh, to love what we don’t understand. It
is ten years before he will take his life.
There are no clues in this photo of the tears.
The way his eyes will dull to black. The empty room.
The choice he made in that doorway.
No, in this photo, the aperture is still wide and
the Florida light reflects off his still-blonde
hair. What’s to come is more blurred than
the tropical trees behind him and the deer. Here, he is
still so curious about what might happen next, and
me, though I know now will happen in his story, it
doesn’t stop me from loving the boy
in that photo. Nor does it stop me from
loving him now. That love still framing
my life.

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As it is, I am grateful for the snow today,
though yesterday I reveled in the warm air
and clear blue sky that felt like spring.
Today still feels like spring, but with snow.
The geese still wander the field on foot,
a thick white layer gathering
on the wide gray platforms of their backs.
The swallows still soar and swoop
in tight formations, unbothered
by thick flakes of snow. The red-winged blackbirds
still trill. It seems only right the heart
should still practice how to fall in love,
no matter the weather. I am thinking of
how yesterday Wendy said of herself,
“What, did I think nothing bad would
ever happen to me?” and how just saying
this out loud helped her stay present—
less the story of herself, more herself.
I’m clear it does no good to wish away snow,
just as it does no good to wish away grief
or the tyranny of cruelty. So when thoughts
of grief and fear roll in like a squall,
I try out Wendy’s line.
What, did I imagine terrible things
wouldn’t happen to me? To the world?
The geese are sliding now into the pond,
the snowflakes disappearing
into dark water. With no effort,
I fall in love with the ripples
the geese leave on the surface,
a momentary story of where they’ve been.
How quickly that story disappears.

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How


 
 
The pond ice gone a single day,
and already the wild geese
have returned, filling the open water
with riotous honking. Even
the backyard feels like a teaching
of how every emptiness invites
something to fill it, if not feather
then feeling. I think of how
in my most lonely moments,
some strange beauty has wandered
into my vision or woven its singular
song into my ears and I can’t help
but feel infused by life, the way
a trickle of water slowly—
almost imperceptibly—
will eventually fill a vast basin
till its water spills out the gulleys.
Perhaps you’ve felt it, too,
when you’re barren. Void of hope.
Then. A pink cloud.
An unruly clamoring of geese.
Still that barren, hopeless feeling,
but also, there it is, a single green tip
of garlic planted five months ago
that finds its way up to the sun.

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for Erin
 
 
Anyone can see she’s a beautiful woman, but god,
she has never been more beautiful to me than when
I brought my great nephews to the loft of her barn
and she picked up a red ping pong paddle and let
the small, fretful boy across the old green table make up
the rules for the game. And every time he’d change the rules—
assigning points for hitting the ball over the exposed beams
of the barn or points for hitting the ball into narrow window frames—
no matter the rules he contrived, she would shrug and say yes
and laugh and let the ball be forever in play. There was sunshine
in her voice when she praised him, pure radiance
in the way she squealed as the ball ricocheted
in the rafters, honest incandescence in her smile.
This is how generosity and goodness survive—
they’re passed on one brief interaction at a time.
When the boys and I left that dusty, sacred space,
fully covered in dust and hay, I swear we, too, were luminous.

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One Bite


 
lemon cookie—
even as I pucker
I snuggle into a memory

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Stubborn Praise

Amazing poet, beloved friend and celebrated anthologist James Crews and I will be offering our next session of Stubborn Praise with the theme of Writing as Refuge next Tuesday, 3/18 at 5:30 p.m MT. The cost to join us is $19, and there will be a recording.

https://www.eventbrite.com/e/1234852369679?aff=oddtdtcreator
 
Oh Broken-Open Heart: A Pre-Mother’s Day Gathering for Mourners

For those who might be struggling to celebrate mother’s day, consider joining me and James for an evening of poems, discussion, writing and conversation on Thursday, May 8, 5-6:30 p.m. MT. Hosted by Evermore and Reimagine, the evening will provide a virtual refuge for people who have lost a mother/mother figure or a child. A chance to both mourn and honor. Sliding scale, $0-$30.

https://letsreimagine.org/76768/oh-broken-open-heart-a-mothers-day-poetry-gathering-for-mourners

 

Daylong Retreat in San Luis Obispo

For those who live in or near San Luis Obispo, CA, James and I will be offering a one-day in-person retreat at the public library on Thursday, 5/1 from 9am-3pm. The cost is $200 to join us.

https://www.jamescrews.net/news/z735x25roc0sz1n3dp5jac4sxul5pa
Weekend Writing Retreat in Vermont

I am also beyond excited to share that James and I will be offering a weekend writing retreat in James’ hometown of Shaftsbury, Vermont this summer! The cost is $475 to join us (you will also have to find accommodation for the weekend), and we will provide a light lunch for both days. Space is limited, with several spots already taken, so I recommend signing up early if you feel called to this offering.

https://www.jamescrews.net/news/weekend-writing-retreat

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