and yet you will weep, and know why
—Gerard Manley Hopkins, “To a Young Child: Spring and Fall”
I don’t remember if the lake outside the window
was open or frozen, but I remember the way my mother
guided my bangs away from my eyes as she said,
“Your grandpa Chuck has died.” I had already learned,
perhaps even from him, to gut and skin bluegills and bass.
I’d strung worms like pink garland on empty hooks,
but I’d not yet considered the death of men.
I sensed something sharp rising in my throat then,
what?—something that scraped its length.
Water dammed at the bottoms of my eyes. “Mommy,” I said,
“I think I’m going to cry.” I remember being surprised.
“Oh my darling,” she said, “That’s right. That’s okay.”
I did not know then how many more tears would find me,
how familiar the tug at my throat would become. With each death
of a loved one, sometimes even with strangers, I feel it,
the barb of the hook as it sets, the sharp ache, the yank
as strong hands begin to reel in the invisible line
pulling me toward the horizon.
I notice how the title segues rather subtly with the sense of the inexact memory, “…perhaps even from him…”, as if fishing for details (pun intended). But what remarkable, then, is the certainty with which the tears come, the sadness, the emotional content. I think that’s true, that emotions remember more clearly than facts.
that is a great pun … you are so right about the way that the memory came. The most clear detail was my mother’s words, her deep love, my shock at the response to death. I know that my grandfather fished, a lot, and so did I, but I was in fact fishing for details. I love the way you said that.
Yes, yes. Caught on the barb of truth.
thank you, Joyce, for your comment. Yes. Caught. Sometimes I forget how caught we are.