Dear poetry friends,
I’ve never before posted a poem here on A Hundred Falling Veils by someone else, but I was so moved by this poem written this week by my poetry student and friend Phyllis Klein that I asked her if I could post it here, and she agreed.
I’m particularly moved by the way that she tells this story in a way that is clearly apropos to this week’s news, but is also so universal.
Dedicated to Christine and all survivors.
Life is Glass
–Phyllis Klein
There are so many fragile things, after all.
People break so easily, and so do dreams and hearts.
Neil Gaiman, Fragile Things
Breaking: Buzz of a bone fractured, burst of a bowl hitting the floor,
boom of a heart splitting. Please like me. A dream as it shatters.
Please think I’m good. Whistle of a word as it severs from itself into the air.
Of a scream demolished.
Moments of breaking:
Hand over the mouth, gagging, pushed into a room, door locked from
the inside. Parties, drinking. Why did I do that? The seconds it takes to get
lost. Smash of consciousness as it disappears. Disillusion’s waking
croak. Where are my clothes? Fragmentation into terror.
How it happens: remembering, forgetting. Was I drugged?
After school, at a party, pungency of impact, taste without
permission. No proof. In the sacristy, in a back seat, a hotel
or a bedroom, did it happen?
Breaking: dust of collision, whiff of dreams burning, nightmares strike,
cymbals snarl in the brain. I’m repulsive. Floating above it
all in a disappeared body.
Why she didn’t tell: Pretend. It didn’t happen.
No one will swallow it. He threatened, laughed, was stronger, bigger.
It’s my fault. They won’t believe me. Pretend. Have to see him sneer.
Hide it.
What happens next: Cracks. Panic, a plane taking off in the gut.
Armor, as involuntary as neurons saying run but all there is is a
wall. Looking ok, nobody knows. Get over it. What is PTSD? The thing
that won’t leave, the image, the smell, the taste that’s a plague.
The crush of shame. Lack of sleep. When is it over?
Feeling it, numbing it. Not understanding yet that greatness
comes from damage.
As a survivor of sexual abuse at age 17 (by an adult stranger), this poem is incredibly powerful to me, allowing me me feel that I’m not alone with the trauma this caused.
Thank, Rosemerry, for posting it.
thank you, Betsy, for sharing your response … it’s a powerful time to share our stories and find our community.
HI Betsy,
Thanks for your comment. Thanks for your courage and for helping me to feel useful in a time when it is easy to feel helpless and hopeless.
My best wishes, Phyllis
What a sad and powerful piece. As a father, a husband, a man, it’s these moments that make me feel so angry and ashamed that this happens.
thank you … yes, sad and powerful. and even at the end empowering.
Thanks so much for your comment and for being a man who can feel. It hurts to feel the horror of what we know is happening but that is also I believe, the best way for healing to occur. I echo your feelings. And I want to know why all this keeps happening. And what we can do to make a difference. I believe one way is through connecting with the pain.I wish I had more answers but I know we need more men like you who can feel your emotions.
My best, Phyllis
Truth rings truth. Thank you for sharing this. Voice matters.
yes, it matters. thank you for responding.
Phyllis is a friend and colleague. I’m so glad you shared this from her.
I am honored to! She’s amazing.
Thanks so much, Na’ama.
Phyllis
I’m rather speechless. Thanks, Rosemerry.
Rosemerry, As you know, I am so honored to be included as one of the falling veils you put out every day. (Must be quite a few more than 100!) Thanks to all who read my poem. It’s not an easy read. And thanks for the comments and likes!
You are on fire, Phyllis. I’m so proud to share your work. Rosemerry